You Gotta Break the Rules to Grow

This morning my wife and I went out to breakfast at a restaurant called The Cracked Egg. It’s one of those “breakfast places”.

Meaning…they just serve breakfast.

All day long.

There are several of these types of places here in Las Vegas.

We got a corn beef hash plate and split it. It was good, even though it wasn’t quite what we expected or wanted.

See, we’re used to eating Hawaii-local-style corn beef hash (i.e. straight from the can and fried in a pan). So eating actual, real corn beef and hash brown potatoes was a bit of a letdown.

Anyway, we were done eating and were just kicking back for a while. She got up to use the restroom. As I sipped my coffee, I noticed that she still had a few bites of food left on her plate.

You can picture it, right? There wasn’t enough to take home – just a few little bites.

Like this…

PHOTO: corn beef hash

So I instinctively reached for her plate, to finish it off.

I mean, I’m not gonna waste food, right? And for the price we paid, you know damn well I’m not going to let them just throw it away.

That is REAL. CORNED. BEEF.

Probably cost us 25 cents a bite.

But as I reached for her plate, I paused for a couple seconds, my hand hovering over the plate.

Then I smiled and snapped this pic.

Here’s why.

90% or Whatever

They say that 90% of our behaviors throughout the day are habitual. We don’t really think about them. We just do them without hesitation, without thinking. Automatically. Like on autopilot.

And since our actions have consequences – effects – that means that 90% of our results in life are caused by our habits. Both our habitual behavior patterns and our habitual thought patterns.

Well, the math might not be exact, and the percentage would be a little different for each of us. But the point is that our habits create our results. So if we want to change our results in life (i.e. set goals and achieve them), then we need to change our habits.

And as it turns out, many of our habits are based on rules. But they aren’t always OUR rules. And they aren’t always GOOD rules.

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What Rules Govern Your Life Habits?

Some rules hold us back in life.

At some point in my childhood, I learned that you don’t throw away food.

  • There are children starving in Africa.
  • There are children starving right here in America.
  • You don’t waste food.

Also, you don’t waste money.

  • We aren’t made out of money.
  • Money doesn’t grow on trees.
  • We can’t afford to throw away food.
  • So finish your food.
  • Clear your plate.
  • Be grateful.
  • Appreciate.

Wow, that was a fun little trip down memory lane, wasn’t it?

How many of you learned those same rules when you were a kid? And how many plates have you cleaned over the years on autopilot, without even thinking about it?

My mirror – and my waistline – tell me that I’ve done it about 20,000 times too many. Tens of thousands of extra bites of food add up over the years, don’t they?

Behaviors like that have been making me fat since I was a kid. Those rules suck. They weren’t intended to harm me or undermine my desire to be healthy and fit. But that’s the effect they’ve had on my life, intentional or not.

If your rules aren’t serving you well, if they’re actually preventing you from reaching your goals, then you’ve got to ditch them. You’ve got to rebel against those rules. Break them intentionally – repeatedly – and then go make up some new rules of your own to replace them.

  • I never stuff myself.
  • I don’t need to finish every single bite.
  • Smaller portions are healthier for me.

Your rules need to reinforce your goals – not undermine them.

What Rules Are Undermining Your Goals?

What rules were passed down to you over the years?

Do those rules still serve you well, or have you outgrown them?

What rules, traditions, values and self-limiting beliefs do you need to rebel against in order to become the person you want to be?

Identify one rule – maybe one you inherited in childhood – that is working against you, holding you back from making progress on your goals. Decide to delete that rule from your life and replace it with a more empowering rule of your own – one that will help you reach your goals on autopilot.

Then comment below and share this post with someone who could use a little rebellion in their life.

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